Do you worry about timing?

Yesterday I met Eva, a 52 year old woman who has built a successful career as a corporate accountant. As we chatted over afternoon tea, she confessed that she hates accounting, and longs to change careers and find a job she’d love. Then she put down her mug and looked at me and said these words, “I’m foolish to consider changing jobs or careers at this point. I should be grateful for what I have. Even my friends and family say this to me. Is it true? Is it too much to ask to find a job I love at my age?”

Have you ever said these words, or maybe just thought them?

Every week I meet someone who expresses these thoughts to me. Many of my clients express this to me at some point in our work together. In fact, I have said them to myself while working along my own path of career transformation. I thought it might be helpful to break this thought down into its components, and get to the real truth.

1. “I’m foolish to consider changing jobs or careers at this point.”

Is it foolish to thoughtfully consider something? Is it foolish to consider change in other areas of your life? It is foolish to leap without thinking, but to thoughtfully consider change that affects your job or career, that’s not foolish. In the current economy and job market, that’s actually wise. After all, you are the one responsible for your career. And that requires serious thought and consideration. Another way to look at it, is it foolish to consider your alternatives, to explore what’s out there? I find it is the responsible, prepared person who knows their options.

2. “I should be grateful for what I have.”

Gratitude has been shown to be a key to happiness and satisfaction. My question is, does considering a change mean you are ungrateful? Is it possible to be grateful for what you have learned, the skills you have developed, the accomplishments you have made, while contemplating moving forward in a new direction? The reality is one of the keys to successfully changing jobs or careers is to be grateful for how you got here, and what you’ve learned along the way. The path you’ve taken is the one that allowed you to build experience, develop your strengths and skills, and discover what you love.

3. “Even my friends and family say this to me.”

Typically this means, “Some of the people in my support system think I’m making a mistake.” It is critical to create the proper support for yourself when making major life changes. Do some of the people in your support system encourage your desire to explore your options, and find a new job or career? Can you create a stronger support system by seeking out an expert to help you (e.g., coach, therapist, mentor)? There are also job clubs you could join for support from people going through a similar experience.

4. “Is it too much to ask to find a job I love at my age?”

Another variation of this question, “Is it too much to ask to find a job I love at this stage in my life?” It is a lot of work to look for a job, whether you love it or hate it. If it’s going to require commitment and effort to look for a job anyway, it will be a lot easier to follow through if you look for a job you’ll love. It is also important to know what the job you love looks like. Take the time to figure that out, and you will find it is not too much to ask. And much more rewarding to find one you love, than one you hate, or are just putting up with.

So, now that we’ve taken this apart and looked at each component, let me ask you the final question, “Is it true?”

I say no, it’s not true! And if you long to have a job and career you love, now is the time to go for it!

What do you say? I invite you to share your thoughts on my blog.

 

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At the time I hired Lori, I was looking for someone to help me develop a resume which focuses on career transitions.  I had hired a coach who did not hear a word I said and sent me a resume that was totally wrong.  Lori, on the other hand, did listen to what my needs were and asked me pointed questions.  I decided to work with her and never regretted this decision. Lori helped develop two resumes which highlighted skills needed for two different types of positions.  She was easy to work with, took all my comments into consideration, and made the appropriate revisions.  In the end, I received two resumes which I was totally happy with.  I would recommend Lori without hesitation.  She is a true professional and a delight to work with.

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