Ask for the support you need

Last week, a woman told me about her experience, and I wanted to share it with you.

Karen works full time in retail sales, and is burning out. Karen has been working for months to figure out what new career she really wants. She has been doing this work on her own, reporting her progress occasionally, and feeling frustrated and scared. She had settled on a career choice, and before she completed the research on it, she began to second guess herself, and started to panic. She wanted more assurance that she was choosing the right path for her.

Last week Karen called me with a new energy and enthusiasm. She had been talking with her husband, and he offered to be more involved in the process of choosing a new career. She was ecstatic. She described him as someone who is smart and objective and who knows her really well. She is excited to have him offer her, not just encouragement, but feedback and more active support.

Karen realized she hadn’t thought to ask for his help. Karen felt she should be able to do this on her own. Once she had his support, and saw its value, she began to seek support from others she trusted as well. She identified a close friend, and another family member, and asked for their help. She also hired a coach to work with her.

I like this story. The reason I like this story is that when I heard it, I realized that I too often forget to ask for support from trusted friends, family, and my own coach. I get caught in the trap of thinking, “It’s my life, I’m the one who needs to figure it out.” Karen’s story reminded me that engaging my support system will give me renewed energy and enthusiasm as I pursue my own dreams, for my career and my life. When I turn to the people who know me, whom I trust, I set myself up for bigger success, and I’m much happier on my own journey.

So as we embark on a new or refreshed journey in 2012, I encourage you to ask for the help and support of others. Make a list of those you trust, those who know you best, and ask them if they will help you in your pursuit of a job and career you love. Consider seeking a mentor or hiring a coach to help you. Ask them to provide their insights, their feedback, and their encouragement. While you’re at it, offer to reciprocate and support them in their dreams as well.

I’d love to hear your stories of support – please share them with me on my blog below.

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Client Stories

What did you need at the time you hired Lori?

I wanted to work in my industry and didn't know how to progress any further than I was. I knew I had much experience that could be put in the industry of my choice but not how to parlay that experience. I needed guidance.

What did you and Lori do together?

Many, many things. Overall, to get clear in my mind what I offered and really what I wanted in a work environment. Every week was another epiphany after another. One of my favorites was the "knowing your core values". Having had some experience on this subject I was all ready to dive-in. Core Values is key. Knowing your core values. 

Lori makes it so easy to pinpoint. One time we were speaking about something else and we both realized...OMG...that is a core value for me. I hadn't written it down before, but discovered later that if ever a core value fit was the one I mentioned at that time.  Knowing that piece of information also answered a long standing question in my head.  One of the "why's" as to my constant upset with other places I had worked.

What were the results from working with Lori?

Many things. One is a great looking resume. I thought, wow, I look good and it was all from work I had already done elsewhere but didn't know how to say it or present it. Another is the clarity of knowing where I will feel good when I do work. What I really want and with the kind of people I really want to work with on a daily basis. This entire process is so valuable. The best money I ever spent and I am not kidding or exaggerating. I was only hoping it would be valuable and it really was valuable.< I know stuff and it has value and is marketable. Lori showed me those things and it gives me confidence.

Anything else you’d like to add?

Lori delivers above and beyond. The highest quality of exchange, 'more than you expected.' I told my friends this over and over: 'I wish I had her 10-20-even 30 years ago.' Every one, and I mean EVERYONE, needs a Lori. Her understanding,patience, how she problem solves, putting things in simple terms, was mind blowing. I wish I could that well. I present a problem and she could turn it around and yes...another epiphany.

Lori, is worth every penny. It isn't about a title. It is about enjoying everyday doing work you love with people you like and are like minded. You'll know what you are looking for when you interview.  I never say this, but I will say it here. Lori is a major key into the rest of my life doing what I always wanted to do. That is: Being happy doing what I do, everyday. Something I have been saying for years. Allowing be Sherlock.  Finding my people. They are out there and now I know what I am looking for in that respect.


Sherlock Ganz, Los Angeles, CA