Discouraged by your ideal job search?

I’ve noticed how frustrated and disheartened people can be by the results of their search for their ideal job. Recently, this conversation has come up again and again.

“I am so passionate about doing this kind of work. And I know my strengths and skills make me great at this kind of work. I am looking for jobs. I’m working hard. Trying so hard. It hasn’t happened yet. I thought since this is my passion, my calling, it would just fall into place. What if this is a sign that I’m wrong? Just because others find their dream jobs, doesn’t mean I will. What if it just won’t happen for me? I’m afraid I will have to give up my dream, and go back to the work I hate. What do I do?”

Have you felt this way? Perhaps you feel this way now. I know I have felt this way at times. When I went through my big career transition, there were several points along the path where I thought – I can’t make it. I am one who’s destined to be miserable in my job and career. It doesn’t matter what I do, I won’t get any results. Thankfully, I had people in my corner to help me find a different perspective. My coach provided support and practical insights. My mother shared the wisdom of her life experience. My friends listened, let me vent, then reminded me they believed in me and were in my corner.

Allow me to set the record straight. Finding a job, any job, is hard work. Period. It takes time, effort, and real commitment. You must be persistent. Looking for a job that aligns with your dream career or ideal work life is no different. It is not more work to find your dream job. It is not less work to find your dream job. It is focused and targeted work. It requires research, a strategy, and a concrete plan with scheduled steps. But the rewards are so much greater.

There is a myth out there that says once you are clear about who you are and what you offer, once you have a vivid picture in mind about what you want, it will come to you. You simply need wait for it with open arms. My experience and my own observations are that for most of us, that’s not really true. As Louis Pasteur once noted, “Did you ever observe to whom the accidents happen? Chance favors only the prepared mind.” When it comes to seeking work in your dream career, chance favors those who are making the effort.

So what can you do to find encouragement and the motivation to keep going?

  1. Take a break. Go do something that refuels your energy and renews your spirit. Take a walk, do some gardening, read a book.
  2. Seek support. You could get a coach, talk to a friend or family member who has been there and made it through, connect with those in your support system who believe in you and want you to succeed.
  3. Don’t quit. Focus on your goal, renew your commitment, and take your next step.

You can do it. I believe in you. It may take a lot of hard work, but it will be worth it when you are working at your new dream job. For when you are working your dream job, using the strengths and skills you love to use, doing work that excites you, you will thrive.

How do you deal with your moments of discouragement or disappointment? Please share them below.

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When I first met Lori, I was in a rut. Having spent 25 years in the same industry, I was bored, max’d out and didn't know what to do next.  I was pigeon-holed into an industry that I was not so fond of, and saw no way to get out.  I felt trapped. Lori understood my predicament, as she had seen it all before -- she was sympathetic, but resolute in knowing that she could help me find answers.  I took great solace in that! 

Through several sessions and dozens of exercises, I began to get a clearer picture of who I am, and where my strengths and talents truly lie.  Working with Lori, I was able to translate that understanding into updated, targeted resumes that quickly produced interviews and gave me the confidence to express myself better than ever before. 

Consulting a Career Coach should be mandatory for anyone in today's work force, and Lori is the best at her profession.

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