Discouraged by your ideal job search?

I’ve noticed how frustrated and disheartened people can be by the results of their search for their ideal job. Recently, this conversation has come up again and again.

“I am so passionate about doing this kind of work. And I know my strengths and skills make me great at this kind of work. I am looking for jobs. I’m working hard. Trying so hard. It hasn’t happened yet. I thought since this is my passion, my calling, it would just fall into place. What if this is a sign that I’m wrong? Just because others find their dream jobs, doesn’t mean I will. What if it just won’t happen for me? I’m afraid I will have to give up my dream, and go back to the work I hate. What do I do?”

Have you felt this way? Perhaps you feel this way now. I know I have felt this way at times. When I went through my big career transition, there were several points along the path where I thought – I can’t make it. I am one who’s destined to be miserable in my job and career. It doesn’t matter what I do, I won’t get any results. Thankfully, I had people in my corner to help me find a different perspective. My coach provided support and practical insights. My mother shared the wisdom of her life experience. My friends listened, let me vent, then reminded me they believed in me and were in my corner.

Allow me to set the record straight. Finding a job, any job, is hard work. Period. It takes time, effort, and real commitment. You must be persistent. Looking for a job that aligns with your dream career or ideal work life is no different. It is not more work to find your dream job. It is not less work to find your dream job. It is focused and targeted work. It requires research, a strategy, and a concrete plan with scheduled steps. But the rewards are so much greater.

There is a myth out there that says once you are clear about who you are and what you offer, once you have a vivid picture in mind about what you want, it will come to you. You simply need wait for it with open arms. My experience and my own observations are that for most of us, that’s not really true. As Louis Pasteur once noted, “Did you ever observe to whom the accidents happen? Chance favors only the prepared mind.” When it comes to seeking work in your dream career, chance favors those who are making the effort.

So what can you do to find encouragement and the motivation to keep going?

  1. Take a break. Go do something that refuels your energy and renews your spirit. Take a walk, do some gardening, read a book.
  2. Seek support. You could get a coach, talk to a friend or family member who has been there and made it through, connect with those in your support system who believe in you and want you to succeed.
  3. Don’t quit. Focus on your goal, renew your commitment, and take your next step.

You can do it. I believe in you. It may take a lot of hard work, but it will be worth it when you are working at your new dream job. For when you are working your dream job, using the strengths and skills you love to use, doing work that excites you, you will thrive.

How do you deal with your moments of discouragement or disappointment? Please share them below.

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Client Stories

What did you need at the time you hired Lori?

I wanted to work in my industry and didn't know how to progress any further than I was. I knew I had much experience that could be put in the industry of my choice but not how to parlay that experience. I needed guidance.

What did you and Lori do together?

Many, many things. Overall, to get clear in my mind what I offered and really what I wanted in a work environment. Every week was another epiphany after another. One of my favorites was the "knowing your core values". Having had some experience on this subject I was all ready to dive-in. Core Values is key. Knowing your core values. 

Lori makes it so easy to pinpoint. One time we were speaking about something else and we both realized...OMG...that is a core value for me. I hadn't written it down before, but discovered later that if ever a core value fit me...it was the one I mentioned at that time.  Knowing that piece of information also answered a long standing question in my head.  One of the "why's" as to my constant upset with other places I had worked.

What were the results from working with Lori?

Many things. One is a great looking resume. I thought, wow, I look good and it was all from work I had already done elsewhere but didn't know how to say it or present it. Another is the clarity of knowing where I will feel good when I do work. What I really want and with the kind of people I really want to work with on a daily basis. This entire process is so valuable. The best money I ever spent and I am not kidding or exaggerating. I was only hoping it would be valuable and it really was valuable.< I know stuff and it has value and is marketable. Lori showed me those things and it gives me confidence.

Anything else you’d like to add?

Lori delivers above and beyond. The highest quality of exchange, 'more than you expected.' I told my friends this over and over: 'I wish I had her 10-20-even 30 years ago.' Every one, and I mean EVERYONE, needs a Lori. Her understanding,patience, how she problem solves, putting things in simple terms, was mind blowing. I wish I could that well. I present a problem and she could turn it around and yes...another epiphany.

Lori, is worth every penny. It isn't about a title. It is about enjoying everyday doing work you love with people you like and are like minded. You'll know what you are looking for when you interview.  I never say this, but I will say it here. Lori is a major key into the rest of my life doing what I always wanted to do. That is: Being happy doing what I do, everyday. Something I have been saying for years. Allowing Sherlock...to be Sherlock.  Finding my people. They are out there and now I know what I am looking for in that respect.


Sherlock Ganz, Los Angeles, CA