Discouraged by your ideal job search?

I’ve noticed how frustrated and disheartened people can be by the results of their search for their ideal job. Recently, this conversation has come up again and again.

“I am so passionate about doing this kind of work. And I know my strengths and skills make me great at this kind of work. I am looking for jobs. I’m working hard. Trying so hard. It hasn’t happened yet. I thought since this is my passion, my calling, it would just fall into place. What if this is a sign that I’m wrong? Just because others find their dream jobs, doesn’t mean I will. What if it just won’t happen for me? I’m afraid I will have to give up my dream, and go back to the work I hate. What do I do?”

Have you felt this way? Perhaps you feel this way now. I know I have felt this way at times. When I went through my big career transition, there were several points along the path where I thought – I can’t make it. I am one who’s destined to be miserable in my job and career. It doesn’t matter what I do, I won’t get any results. Thankfully, I had people in my corner to help me find a different perspective. My coach provided support and practical insights. My mother shared the wisdom of her life experience. My friends listened, let me vent, then reminded me they believed in me and were in my corner.

Allow me to set the record straight. Finding a job, any job, is hard work. Period. It takes time, effort, and real commitment. You must be persistent. Looking for a job that aligns with your dream career or ideal work life is no different. It is not more work to find your dream job. It is not less work to find your dream job. It is focused and targeted work. It requires research, a strategy, and a concrete plan with scheduled steps. But the rewards are so much greater.

There is a myth out there that says once you are clear about who you are and what you offer, once you have a vivid picture in mind about what you want, it will come to you. You simply need wait for it with open arms. My experience and my own observations are that for most of us, that’s not really true. As Louis Pasteur once noted, “Did you ever observe to whom the accidents happen? Chance favors only the prepared mind.” When it comes to seeking work in your dream career, chance favors those who are making the effort.

So what can you do to find encouragement and the motivation to keep going?

  1. Take a break. Go do something that refuels your energy and renews your spirit. Take a walk, do some gardening, read a book.
  2. Seek support. You could get a coach, talk to a friend or family member who has been there and made it through, connect with those in your support system who believe in you and want you to succeed.
  3. Don’t quit. Focus on your goal, renew your commitment, and take your next step.

You can do it. I believe in you. It may take a lot of hard work, but it will be worth it when you are working at your new dream job. For when you are working your dream job, using the strengths and skills you love to use, doing work that excites you, you will thrive.

How do you deal with your moments of discouragement or disappointment? Please share them below.

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Client Stories

 I was looking to make large changes in my life, both job and city.  I was a happy midwestern resident for nearly 30 years but wanted to see what life on a coast was like and get a dream job.  This was a tall order and going into it I thought I would have to make large compromises on parts of my dreams to get any of it.  

I went to Lori to help me achieve these dreams.  It was the best decision I made.

She focused on two things right out of the gate:
  1. clarify my goals, both personal and professional
  2. get me to stop selling myself short

These twin achievements allowed me to approach my hunt with confidence, patience and focus.  My original dream job was to try and combine my technical joys with a personal one.  I enjoy large scale data processing with cutting edge tools, music and baseball.  Through the tools Lori taught me and helped me unearth in myself I got that gig that would have fallen into day dream territory before our work together.  

And yeah, there's platinum records on the walls of my lobby and I have tons of data to process.

Pat Christopher, Intelligence Engineer, Seattle, WA