Do you worry about timing?

Yesterday I met Eva, a 52 year old woman who has built a successful career as a corporate accountant. As we chatted over afternoon tea, she confessed that she hates accounting, and longs to change careers and find a job she’d love. Then she put down her mug and looked at me and said these words, “I’m foolish to consider changing jobs or careers at this point. I should be grateful for what I have. Even my friends and family say this to me. Is it true? Is it too much to ask to find a job I love at my age?”

Have you ever said these words, or maybe just thought them?

Every week I meet someone who expresses these thoughts to me. Many of my clients express this to me at some point in our work together. In fact, I have said them to myself while working along my own path of career transformation. I thought it might be helpful to break this thought down into its components, and get to the real truth.

1. “I’m foolish to consider changing jobs or careers at this point.”

Is it foolish to thoughtfully consider something? Is it foolish to consider change in other areas of your life? It is foolish to leap without thinking, but to thoughtfully consider change that affects your job or career, that’s not foolish. In the current economy and job market, that’s actually wise. After all, you are the one responsible for your career. And that requires serious thought and consideration. Another way to look at it, is it foolish to consider your alternatives, to explore what’s out there? I find it is the responsible, prepared person who knows their options.

2. “I should be grateful for what I have.”

Gratitude has been shown to be a key to happiness and satisfaction. My question is, does considering a change mean you are ungrateful? Is it possible to be grateful for what you have learned, the skills you have developed, the accomplishments you have made, while contemplating moving forward in a new direction? The reality is one of the keys to successfully changing jobs or careers is to be grateful for how you got here, and what you’ve learned along the way. The path you’ve taken is the one that allowed you to build experience, develop your strengths and skills, and discover what you love.

3. “Even my friends and family say this to me.”

Typically this means, “Some of the people in my support system think I’m making a mistake.” It is critical to create the proper support for yourself when making major life changes. Do some of the people in your support system encourage your desire to explore your options, and find a new job or career? Can you create a stronger support system by seeking out an expert to help you (e.g., coach, therapist, mentor)? There are also job clubs you could join for support from people going through a similar experience.

4. “Is it too much to ask to find a job I love at my age?”

Another variation of this question, “Is it too much to ask to find a job I love at this stage in my life?” It is a lot of work to look for a job, whether you love it or hate it. If it’s going to require commitment and effort to look for a job anyway, it will be a lot easier to follow through if you look for a job you’ll love. It is also important to know what the job you love looks like. Take the time to figure that out, and you will find it is not too much to ask. And much more rewarding to find one you love, than one you hate, or are just putting up with.

So, now that we’ve taken this apart and looked at each component, let me ask you the final question, “Is it true?”

I say no, it’s not true! And if you long to have a job and career you love, now is the time to go for it!

What do you say? I invite you to share your thoughts on my blog.

 

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Client Stories

What did you need at the time you hired Lori?


I wanted to work in my industry and didn't know how to progress any further than I was. I knew I had much experience that could be put in the industry of my choice but not how to parlay that experience. I needed guidance.

What did you and Lori do together?


Many, many things. Overall, to get clear in my mind what I offered and really what I wanted in a work environment. Every week was another epiphany after another. One of my favorites was the "knowing your core values". Having had some experience on this subject I was all ready to dive-in. Core Values is key. Knowing your core values. 

Lori makes it so easy to pinpoint. One time we were speaking about something else and we both realized...OMG...that is a core value for me. I hadn't written it down before, but discovered later that if ever a core value fit me...it was the one I mentioned at that time.  Knowing that piece of information also answered a long standing question in my head.  One of the "why's" as to my constant upset with other places I had worked.

What were the results from working with Lori?


Many things. One is a great looking resume. I thought, wow, I look good and it was all from work I had already done elsewhere but didn't know how to say it or present it. Another is the clarity of knowing where I will feel good when I do work. What I really want and with the kind of people I really want to work with on a daily basis. This entire process is so valuable. The best money I ever spent and I am not kidding or exaggerating. I was only hoping it would be valuable and it really was valuable.< I know stuff and it has value and is marketable. Lori showed me those things and it gives me confidence.

Anything else you’d like to add?


Lori delivers above and beyond. The highest quality of exchange, 'more than you expected.' I told my friends this over and over: 'I wish I had her 10-20-even 30 years ago.' Every one, and I mean EVERYONE, needs a Lori. Her understanding,patience, how she problem solves, putting things in simple terms, was mind blowing. I wish I could that well. I present a problem and she could turn it around and yes...another epiphany.

Lori, is worth every penny. It isn't about a title. It is about enjoying everyday doing work you love with people you like and are like minded. You'll know what you are looking for when you interview.  I never say this, but I will say it here. Lori is a major key into the rest of my life doing what I always wanted to do. That is: Being happy doing what I do, everyday. Something I have been saying for years. Allowing Sherlock...to be Sherlock.  Finding my people. They are out there and now I know what I am looking for in that respect.

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Sherlock Ganz, Los Angeles, CA