I Dare You to Ask for What You Want!

Are you feeling tired or drained by your job? What have you done about it recently?

Diane changed careers in her 40’s. She worked in customer service for years and started down the path to burnout. Then she transformed her career by going to nursing school at night, and earning her RN. She landed a job she loved working for a medical center that provided outpatient services as well as surgeries. She loved the surgery work, and at first they divided her time among both groups equally. Then they began to assign more and more of her hours to the clinic, and almost no time to surgery. Soon after, she started coming home feeling anxious and stressed. She felt frustrated with her job, but Diane was afraid to speak up. She worried that if she asked for what she wanted, they would fire her.

Diane is like so many women (and a few men) that I meet who believe that speaking up for what you want is rude, ungrateful, and just plain wrong. And the result will be that you will lose everything that’s good about what you have, by getting fired. But there is a huge difference between speaking up for yourself, calmly asking for what you want, and issuing demands and ultimatums.

Diane began to experience health problems from her stress: high blood pressure and weight gain from stress eating. She knew she was back on the fast track to burnout. That’s when Diane realized that she was allowing her dream job to morph into something she resented. And she knew she needed to take action and change things.

So she met with the surgical group supervisor, and told him she preferred surgery work over clinic work. She asked him what it would take to get more assignments there. He thanked her for coming to him and immediately made some schedule changes to increase her surgical assignments. He then encouraged Diane to continue to talk with him about these things, so they could work them out together. He made it clear that he values Diane as an employee and wants her to enjoy her work.

Diane improved her situation, and more importantly, she created an open door to ask for what she wants. The best part is Diane now knows she can have this type of conversation without fear of repercussions. She will not be fired. She also knows she must ask for what she wants, otherwise no one will know that she’s unhappy or why.

This is one of many stories of men and women I know who moved from fear to confidence when asking for what you want at your job. In having these conversations, you form a stronger, supportive relationship with your boss. And your boss gets a happier, more invested employee. Now that’s Win-Win!

What about you? What are you putting up with? What you can ask for today, to create a happier and more satisfying work experience?

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Client Stories

What did you need at the time you hired Lori?

I wanted to work in my industry and didn't know how to progress any further than I was. I knew I had much experience that could be put in the industry of my choice but not how to parlay that experience. I needed guidance.

What did you and Lori do together?

Many, many things. Overall, to get clear in my mind what I offered and really what I wanted in a work environment. Every week was another epiphany after another. One of my favorites was the "knowing your core values". Having had some experience on this subject I was all ready to dive-in. Core Values is key. Knowing your core values. 

Lori makes it so easy to pinpoint. One time we were speaking about something else and we both realized...OMG...that is a core value for me. I hadn't written it down before, but discovered later that if ever a core value fit me...it was the one I mentioned at that time.  Knowing that piece of information also answered a long standing question in my head.  One of the "why's" as to my constant upset with other places I had worked.

What were the results from working with Lori?

Many things. One is a great looking resume. I thought, wow, I look good and it was all from work I had already done elsewhere but didn't know how to say it or present it. Another is the clarity of knowing where I will feel good when I do work. What I really want and with the kind of people I really want to work with on a daily basis. This entire process is so valuable. The best money I ever spent and I am not kidding or exaggerating. I was only hoping it would be valuable and it really was valuable.< I know stuff and it has value and is marketable. Lori showed me those things and it gives me confidence.

Anything else you’d like to add?

Lori delivers above and beyond. The highest quality of exchange, 'more than you expected.' I told my friends this over and over: 'I wish I had her 10-20-even 30 years ago.' Every one, and I mean EVERYONE, needs a Lori. Her understanding,patience, how she problem solves, putting things in simple terms, was mind blowing. I wish I could that well. I present a problem and she could turn it around and yes...another epiphany.

Lori, is worth every penny. It isn't about a title. It is about enjoying everyday doing work you love with people you like and are like minded. You'll know what you are looking for when you interview.  I never say this, but I will say it here. Lori is a major key into the rest of my life doing what I always wanted to do. That is: Being happy doing what I do, everyday. Something I have been saying for years. Allowing Sherlock...to be Sherlock.  Finding my people. They are out there and now I know what I am looking for in that respect.


Sherlock Ganz, Los Angeles, CA