Roles, Relationships, and Career Success – With whom do you thrive?

Think of a favorite project you completed. It could be a project at work, or a project at home, or even something you did as a volunteer. Choose a project that makes you swell with pride, one you enjoyed and felt good about the work as well as the outcome. What role did you play? Were the leader, the one with vision, out in front, organizing and coordinating schedules and efforts? Were you the cheerleader, keeping everyone involved and motivated? Perhaps you were mediator, resolving conflict, smoothing ruffled feathers? Maybe you were a pair of hands, working hard and with focus, getting things done? Maybe you played a different role, or a combination of roles.

As part of her Stage 1: Unearth work, Ann told stories like these: When she was six she looked up to her older sister Jane as someone who knew how to do things. So she asked Jane to teach her and her best friend how to ride their bikes. She pleaded, bargained, and charmed her way until her sister finally gave in and showed her how. When she was twelve, she convinced her two friends to work together and create themed costumes for school. They went as giant ice cream sundae – three flavors of ice cream in a dish, each with her own sauce and topping. Ann got her mom to help them, by teaching them to sew and of course to drive them to school and help them get into their costume. There Awards were given to the best costume, and their costume won for most creative. At 26 she was working on a marketing project at work, with a group of her peers. She instinctively led the way. She had the vision, and then she kept the team motivated and inspired to carry it out. She sought advice and guidance from her mentor, a manager from another group.

It is clear from these stories that Ann loves to lead, and is a natural leader. She also enjoys collaborating with a team, and having a mentor to go to for guidance and advice. At 37, she was frustrated and exhausted at work. She was working as the Marketing Director at a small firm, where her peers were as overworked as she was, each with their own responsibilities. The owner was often travelling and unavailable. Ann was burning out, in part because she was not longer engaging in the roles in which she thrived. For all practical purposes, she had no team of peers to collaborate with. She had no mentor. As Ann began to identify her Ideal Job, she realized that she really wanted to work in a larger organization that valued collaboration. And one where she could find a mentor either internally, or that allowed her time in her schedule to get out and network, and find a mentor in her profession.

She had never considered the importance of the roles she played when thinking about her dream career, the type of work in which she’d truly thrive. But as we looked at her stories from her own life, she realized the clues had been there all along.

What about you? What roles are you drawn to? What roles bring you the most joy on a project? In what roles do you thrive? I’d love for you to share your discoveries on my blog below.


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Client Stories

What did you need at the time you hired Lori?

I wanted to work in my industry and didn't know how to progress any further than I was. I knew I had much experience that could be put in the industry of my choice but not how to parlay that experience. I needed guidance.

What did you and Lori do together?

Many, many things. Overall, to get clear in my mind what I offered and really what I wanted in a work environment. Every week was another epiphany after another. One of my favorites was the "knowing your core values". Having had some experience on this subject I was all ready to dive-in. Core Values is key. Knowing your core values. 

Lori makes it so easy to pinpoint. One time we were speaking about something else and we both realized...OMG...that is a core value for me. I hadn't written it down before, but discovered later that if ever a core value fit was the one I mentioned at that time.  Knowing that piece of information also answered a long standing question in my head.  One of the "why's" as to my constant upset with other places I had worked.

What were the results from working with Lori?

Many things. One is a great looking resume. I thought, wow, I look good and it was all from work I had already done elsewhere but didn't know how to say it or present it. Another is the clarity of knowing where I will feel good when I do work. What I really want and with the kind of people I really want to work with on a daily basis. This entire process is so valuable. The best money I ever spent and I am not kidding or exaggerating. I was only hoping it would be valuable and it really was valuable.< I know stuff and it has value and is marketable. Lori showed me those things and it gives me confidence.

Anything else you’d like to add?

Lori delivers above and beyond. The highest quality of exchange, 'more than you expected.' I told my friends this over and over: 'I wish I had her 10-20-even 30 years ago.' Every one, and I mean EVERYONE, needs a Lori. Her understanding,patience, how she problem solves, putting things in simple terms, was mind blowing. I wish I could that well. I present a problem and she could turn it around and yes...another epiphany.

Lori, is worth every penny. It isn't about a title. It is about enjoying everyday doing work you love with people you like and are like minded. You'll know what you are looking for when you interview.  I never say this, but I will say it here. Lori is a major key into the rest of my life doing what I always wanted to do. That is: Being happy doing what I do, everyday. Something I have been saying for years. Allowing be Sherlock.  Finding my people. They are out there and now I know what I am looking for in that respect.


Sherlock Ganz, Los Angeles, CA