Stabilize your Core

In working with my clients – and looking at my own inner workings – I have developed this theory that we all have a set of things – that make up our core – or our foundation.  These are those things or areas of our life that provide us with a sense of security, safety, stability.  When these are compromised – or aren’t there – we can’t live out our purpose, we can’t go after a life of passion.  We can’t focus on it.  Let’s face it, we’ve all seen enough sci-fi to know that its very bad to de-stabilize the core. 

It kind of reminds me of Maslow’s Hierarchy of needs – remember the triangle from sociology or psychology class?  The bottom layer is Physical Need – and when those needs aren’t met – that is where our focus resides:  food, clothing, shelter.

The concept of our core is a different way of looking at that.  My core contains: financial stability (am I making ends meet?), spiritual connection (how is my relationship with God? am I doing my daily practice?), health (am i practicing self care?), support relationships (is my support system in place? friends, family relationships)… When one of these is compromised or broken in some way – I worry, I obsess, I must DEAL with this area – restore stability to my foundation so I can resume reaching for my dreams, living out my passions.

Not everyone has the same core…I know someone who has music in her core.  I love that.  She needs music in her day, in her life.   I know someone else who must write.  If he isn’t writing – things get off-kilter. 

Once our Core is stabilized – then we can trust it to support us as we go after our passions – the things that inspire us, drive us, call to us.   What is in your core?

 

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Client Stories

 I was looking to make large changes in my life, both job and city.  I was a happy midwestern resident for nearly 30 years but wanted to see what life on a coast was like and get a dream job.  This was a tall order and going into it I thought I would have to make large compromises on parts of my dreams to get any of it.  

I went to Lori to help me achieve these dreams.  It was the best decision I made.

She focused on two things right out of the gate:
  1. clarify my goals, both personal and professional
  2. get me to stop selling myself short

These twin achievements allowed me to approach my hunt with confidence, patience and focus.  My original dream job was to try and combine my technical joys with a personal one.  I enjoy large scale data processing with cutting edge tools, music and baseball.  Through the tools Lori taught me and helped me unearth in myself I got that gig that would have fallen into day dream territory before our work together.  

And yeah, there's platinum records on the walls of my lobby and I have tons of data to process.

Pat Christopher, Intelligence Engineer, Seattle, WA