Tell Yourself A Story (Newsletter Vol 2 Issue 6)

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Volume 2 Issue 6, June 22, 2010
Tell Yourself A Story

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Tell Yourself A Story

I received an email yesterday from an old acquaintance-friend, Sarah.  It was a letter telling me all about how wonderful her life has been over the past year.  A true adventure, the mythic hero’s journey filled with romance and castles, only without a wicked witch or any evil. 

I confess, as I read her letter, I began to compare my life to hers. And mine was sorely lacking.  I felt like someone kicked me in the gut and said “Hey, loser.  You’re wasting your life away.”  Lucky for me, my very close friend Cathleen quickly intervened.  “Sarah’s life isn’t better than yours or mine, she’s just a great story teller.  I’m sure she has problems like we do, only she just left those out.”

Then I wondered, what if I told the story of my own life over the past year in the same fashion that Sarah told hers?  What would my story be?

So I grabbed a cup of blackberry tea, and sat down with my laptop and started typing. 

My story turned out to be more of a classic adventure story.  There was a big dream calling me forth, and risks that simply had to be taken.  My version also had dragons and a wicked witch that I had to battle.  Plus, there were rainbow sightings, and encounters with mentors to guide me.  I must admit, this new telling of the story of my past year leaves me feeling excited by my own life, proud of what I’ve done and what I’ve survived, and even left me looking forward to my future adventures.  This is a very different perspective on the same events that had me discouraged before.  I didn’t alter the events, I just changed the story I told about them.

And I realized that is a fantastic tool to reframe your perspective on your own life – to move from feeling victimized and out-of-control – to seeing yourself as the hero, the one others find to be inspirational and brave and sure.  Sarah has developed a skill for re-writing her own story in a way that fuels her confidence, and makes her powerful, successful.  All the brain research, along with psychological studies over time, show that what we say about ourselves, to ourselves, is important.  This form of storytelling that Sarah has developed, well that could benefit me as well. It is a skill I, too, can learn.  Just as with any other skill, it simply takes practice and time.

What is an area of your life you feel particularly discouraged about?  If you were to re-write your story, would it be? I challenge you to write your own story of your life over the past weeks, month, or perhaps year.  And tell me what you discover along the way.  Even better, share you story with others at my blog.

Warm regards,

Lori Howard

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Client Stories

What did you need at the time you hired Lori?

I wanted to work in my industry and didn't know how to progress any further than I was. I knew I had much experience that could be put in the industry of my choice but not how to parlay that experience. I needed guidance.

What did you and Lori do together?

Many, many things. Overall, to get clear in my mind what I offered and really what I wanted in a work environment. Every week was another epiphany after another. One of my favorites was the "knowing your core values". Having had some experience on this subject I was all ready to dive-in. Core Values is key. Knowing your core values. 

Lori makes it so easy to pinpoint. One time we were speaking about something else and we both realized...OMG...that is a core value for me. I hadn't written it down before, but discovered later that if ever a core value fit was the one I mentioned at that time.  Knowing that piece of information also answered a long standing question in my head.  One of the "why's" as to my constant upset with other places I had worked.

What were the results from working with Lori?

Many things. One is a great looking resume. I thought, wow, I look good and it was all from work I had already done elsewhere but didn't know how to say it or present it. Another is the clarity of knowing where I will feel good when I do work. What I really want and with the kind of people I really want to work with on a daily basis. This entire process is so valuable. The best money I ever spent and I am not kidding or exaggerating. I was only hoping it would be valuable and it really was valuable.< I know stuff and it has value and is marketable. Lori showed me those things and it gives me confidence.

Anything else you’d like to add?

Lori delivers above and beyond. The highest quality of exchange, 'more than you expected.' I told my friends this over and over: 'I wish I had her 10-20-even 30 years ago.' Every one, and I mean EVERYONE, needs a Lori. Her understanding,patience, how she problem solves, putting things in simple terms, was mind blowing. I wish I could that well. I present a problem and she could turn it around and yes...another epiphany.

Lori, is worth every penny. It isn't about a title. It is about enjoying everyday doing work you love with people you like and are like minded. You'll know what you are looking for when you interview.  I never say this, but I will say it here. Lori is a major key into the rest of my life doing what I always wanted to do. That is: Being happy doing what I do, everyday. Something I have been saying for years. Allowing be Sherlock.  Finding my people. They are out there and now I know what I am looking for in that respect.


Sherlock Ganz, Los Angeles, CA