That’s it! I quit!

Have you ever felt so frustrated that you wanted to quit your job right then and there?

When I was at the peak of my burn out on my job and career, I felt that way every day. I was miserable.

Julie, a dear friend and client, felt that way when she and I met. She wanted out, and she wanted out B-A-D. Two things kept her from quitting: 1) she needed the income and 2) she had absolutely no idea what she wanted to do or where she wanted to go. She felt powerless and even more frustrated as a result.

Julie threw herself into every exercise we could find that helped her unearth her unique strengths, skills, and passions. She discovered what was truly important to her in a career, and in a job. She began identify the things she needed in order to thrive at work. We created a plan to get her the job she wanted. And she began to work toward that.

The more she learned about herself, and what she had to offer a company, the more confident she became. As she became clearer about what kind of work she wanted to do, and how to get it, she developed a relaxed sense of self-assurance.

Then an interesting thing happened to Julie. She began to ask for what she wanted, from her current employer.

One day in a meeting with her boss she told him that she wanted more recognition for her work. She described for him what that recognition would look like: a new title that matched her role and a pay increase she felt she earned by her work. She told him this was important to her. She needed to know he and the organization recognized and valued her contributions and accomplishments.

You know what happened? She got the title change and the promise of a raise at her next scheduled performance review. Her boss announced the title change to her peers. And he told her directly that he and the company valued her and her contributions to the company.

Julie was shocked. She realized none of this would have happened had she not asked for it. With her new confidence, she marked a date in her calendar to follow up about the promised raise.

Julie is still actively looking for a new job. But now her days are less stressful. While she looks for a job, she asks for opportunities that move her career in the direction she wants. And she no longer feels desperate, angry and frustrated. She feels hopeful and confident.

Julie’s story reminds us how important it is to ask for what we want. We might not get it. But if we say nothing, and stew in frustration, we are sure to feel trapped and unhappy.

Wouldn’t it be nice to feel more relaxed and hopeful as you search for the job and career that you truly love? What can you ask for this week to make your current job closer to being what you want?

I invite you to share your responses on my blog.

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Client Stories

What did you need at the time you hired Lori?

I wanted to work in my industry and didn't know how to progress any further than I was. I knew I had much experience that could be put in the industry of my choice but not how to parlay that experience. I needed guidance.

What did you and Lori do together?

Many, many things. Overall, to get clear in my mind what I offered and really what I wanted in a work environment. Every week was another epiphany after another. One of my favorites was the "knowing your core values". Having had some experience on this subject I was all ready to dive-in. Core Values is key. Knowing your core values. 

Lori makes it so easy to pinpoint. One time we were speaking about something else and we both realized...OMG...that is a core value for me. I hadn't written it down before, but discovered later that if ever a core value fit was the one I mentioned at that time.  Knowing that piece of information also answered a long standing question in my head.  One of the "why's" as to my constant upset with other places I had worked.

What were the results from working with Lori?

Many things. One is a great looking resume. I thought, wow, I look good and it was all from work I had already done elsewhere but didn't know how to say it or present it. Another is the clarity of knowing where I will feel good when I do work. What I really want and with the kind of people I really want to work with on a daily basis. This entire process is so valuable. The best money I ever spent and I am not kidding or exaggerating. I was only hoping it would be valuable and it really was valuable.< I know stuff and it has value and is marketable. Lori showed me those things and it gives me confidence.

Anything else you’d like to add?

Lori delivers above and beyond. The highest quality of exchange, 'more than you expected.' I told my friends this over and over: 'I wish I had her 10-20-even 30 years ago.' Every one, and I mean EVERYONE, needs a Lori. Her understanding,patience, how she problem solves, putting things in simple terms, was mind blowing. I wish I could that well. I present a problem and she could turn it around and yes...another epiphany.

Lori, is worth every penny. It isn't about a title. It is about enjoying everyday doing work you love with people you like and are like minded. You'll know what you are looking for when you interview.  I never say this, but I will say it here. Lori is a major key into the rest of my life doing what I always wanted to do. That is: Being happy doing what I do, everyday. Something I have been saying for years. Allowing be Sherlock.  Finding my people. They are out there and now I know what I am looking for in that respect.


Sherlock Ganz, Los Angeles, CA