That’s it! I quit!

Have you ever felt so frustrated that you wanted to quit your job right then and there?

When I was at the peak of my burn out on my job and career, I felt that way every day. I was miserable.

Julie, a dear friend and client, felt that way when she and I met. She wanted out, and she wanted out B-A-D. Two things kept her from quitting: 1) she needed the income and 2) she had absolutely no idea what she wanted to do or where she wanted to go. She felt powerless and even more frustrated as a result.

Julie threw herself into every exercise we could find that helped her unearth her unique strengths, skills, and passions. She discovered what was truly important to her in a career, and in a job. She began identify the things she needed in order to thrive at work. We created a plan to get her the job she wanted. And she began to work toward that.

The more she learned about herself, and what she had to offer a company, the more confident she became. As she became clearer about what kind of work she wanted to do, and how to get it, she developed a relaxed sense of self-assurance.

Then an interesting thing happened to Julie. She began to ask for what she wanted, from her current employer.

One day in a meeting with her boss she told him that she wanted more recognition for her work. She described for him what that recognition would look like: a new title that matched her role and a pay increase she felt she earned by her work. She told him this was important to her. She needed to know he and the organization recognized and valued her contributions and accomplishments.

You know what happened? She got the title change and the promise of a raise at her next scheduled performance review. Her boss announced the title change to her peers. And he told her directly that he and the company valued her and her contributions to the company.

Julie was shocked. She realized none of this would have happened had she not asked for it. With her new confidence, she marked a date in her calendar to follow up about the promised raise.

Julie is still actively looking for a new job. But now her days are less stressful. While she looks for a job, she asks for opportunities that move her career in the direction she wants. And she no longer feels desperate, angry and frustrated. She feels hopeful and confident.

Julie’s story reminds us how important it is to ask for what we want. We might not get it. But if we say nothing, and stew in frustration, we are sure to feel trapped and unhappy.

Wouldn’t it be nice to feel more relaxed and hopeful as you search for the job and career that you truly love? What can you ask for this week to make your current job closer to being what you want?

I invite you to share your responses on my blog.

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Client Stories

 I was looking to make large changes in my life, both job and city.  I was a happy midwestern resident for nearly 30 years but wanted to see what life on a coast was like and get a dream job.  This was a tall order and going into it I thought I would have to make large compromises on parts of my dreams to get any of it.  

I went to Lori to help me achieve these dreams.  It was the best decision I made.

She focused on two things right out of the gate:
  1. clarify my goals, both personal and professional
  2. get me to stop selling myself short

These twin achievements allowed me to approach my hunt with confidence, patience and focus.  My original dream job was to try and combine my technical joys with a personal one.  I enjoy large scale data processing with cutting edge tools, music and baseball.  Through the tools Lori taught me and helped me unearth in myself I got that gig that would have fallen into day dream territory before our work together.  

And yeah, there's platinum records on the walls of my lobby and I have tons of data to process.

Pat Christopher, Intelligence Engineer, Seattle, WA