Time for TLC and Self Care

Do you need some TLC?

Self-care is foundational to thriving in your career and in your life. When we are busy or overworked, or feeling tired and depleted, self-care is often one of the first things to go. But neglecting self-care can ultimately lead to burnout. In fact, if you find you can’t make time for self-care, you can be sure you are on the path to burnout. If you already experiencing burnout in your job or career, self-care is the first step to recovery and transformation. The great news is this something you can change.

Many clients come to me actively seeking balance in their job or career. When we talk about what it means to have more balance, the most frequent answer is that more balance means time for self-care.

What is self-care? Literally, self-care means doing what you want or need to feel taken care of. Self-care is not about waiting for your family or friends to take care of you, instead it includes the things you do for yourself.

Many of us have grown up with the belief that self-care is selfish. The truth is without self-care your capacity to care for others or to accomplish your goals diminishes. One of my contacts shared this great quote on Facebook this week and I want to share it with you.

“It’s not selfish to love yourself, take care of yourself, and to make your happiness a priority. It’s necessary.” – Mandy Hale

Got that? Self-care is necessary. Self-care includes your physical, intellectual, emotional, and spiritual needs. When I need self-care, I start with sleep, diet, and exercise, in that order, because if you aren’t getting enough sleep, everything else can be compromised.

Next, check in with your emotional and spiritual needs. Are you spending time with people you love and who love and accept you? Are you connecting with your spirit and something greater than you? What helps you with that? I personally like to start my day with a healthy breakfast, a cup of fresh brewed coffee, and journaling. That’s how I connect with my intuition and with God. One of my clients relies on yoga and meditation; another client attends a martial arts class every day. For myself, I have found that as the seasons change, my needs change. During warmer months, I’ll replace my daily journaling time with a brisk walk by the lake, when I will spend time appreciating nature. These are just a few examples. The important question is: What works for you?

Finally, are you being challenged intellectually? Perhaps you’d like to read a book during your commute to work, or work a Sudoku puzzle with your afternoon tea.

Remember, self-care is not selfish, it is necessary. Benefits of self-care include having more energy for the work you need to do and the work you want to do. You will receive a nice boost to your self esteem when you take the time for self-care. Self-care is quite possibly the most important thing you can do to help yourself.

What do you need right now to feel cared for? Can you take a break, make some tea, and sit quietly and breathe for just 5 minutes right now? Or perhaps you’d rather take a walk to the break room or coffee shop and buy a cup? What can you do for just a few short minutes, right now, to practice self-care? I invite you to share how you practice self-care below.

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At the time I hired Lori, I was looking for someone to help me develop a resume which focuses on career transitions.  I had hired a coach who did not hear a word I said and sent me a resume that was totally wrong.  Lori, on the other hand, did listen to what my needs were and asked me pointed questions.  I decided to work with her and never regretted this decision. Lori helped develop two resumes which highlighted skills needed for two different types of positions.  She was easy to work with, took all my comments into consideration, and made the appropriate revisions.  In the end, I received two resumes which I was totally happy with.  I would recommend Lori without hesitation.  She is a true professional and a delight to work with.

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