Time for TLC and Self Care

Do you need some TLC?

Self-care is foundational to thriving in your career and in your life. When we are busy or overworked, or feeling tired and depleted, self-care is often one of the first things to go. But neglecting self-care can ultimately lead to burnout. In fact, if you find you can’t make time for self-care, you can be sure you are on the path to burnout. If you already experiencing burnout in your job or career, self-care is the first step to recovery and transformation. The great news is this something you can change.

Many clients come to me actively seeking balance in their job or career. When we talk about what it means to have more balance, the most frequent answer is that more balance means time for self-care.

What is self-care? Literally, self-care means doing what you want or need to feel taken care of. Self-care is not about waiting for your family or friends to take care of you, instead it includes the things you do for yourself.

Many of us have grown up with the belief that self-care is selfish. The truth is without self-care your capacity to care for others or to accomplish your goals diminishes. One of my contacts shared this great quote on Facebook this week and I want to share it with you.

“It’s not selfish to love yourself, take care of yourself, and to make your happiness a priority. It’s necessary.” – Mandy Hale

Got that? Self-care is necessary. Self-care includes your physical, intellectual, emotional, and spiritual needs. When I need self-care, I start with sleep, diet, and exercise, in that order, because if you aren’t getting enough sleep, everything else can be compromised.

Next, check in with your emotional and spiritual needs. Are you spending time with people you love and who love and accept you? Are you connecting with your spirit and something greater than you? What helps you with that? I personally like to start my day with a healthy breakfast, a cup of fresh brewed coffee, and journaling. That’s how I connect with my intuition and with God. One of my clients relies on yoga and meditation; another client attends a martial arts class every day. For myself, I have found that as the seasons change, my needs change. During warmer months, I’ll replace my daily journaling time with a brisk walk by the lake, when I will spend time appreciating nature. These are just a few examples. The important question is: What works for you?

Finally, are you being challenged intellectually? Perhaps you’d like to read a book during your commute to work, or work a Sudoku puzzle with your afternoon tea.

Remember, self-care is not selfish, it is necessary. Benefits of self-care include having more energy for the work you need to do and the work you want to do. You will receive a nice boost to your self esteem when you take the time for self-care. Self-care is quite possibly the most important thing you can do to help yourself.

What do you need right now to feel cared for? Can you take a break, make some tea, and sit quietly and breathe for just 5 minutes right now? Or perhaps you’d rather take a walk to the break room or coffee shop and buy a cup? What can you do for just a few short minutes, right now, to practice self-care? I invite you to share how you practice self-care below.

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Client Stories

What did you need at the time you hired Lori?


I wanted to work in my industry and didn't know how to progress any further than I was. I knew I had much experience that could be put in the industry of my choice but not how to parlay that experience. I needed guidance.

What did you and Lori do together?


Many, many things. Overall, to get clear in my mind what I offered and really what I wanted in a work environment. Every week was another epiphany after another. One of my favorites was the "knowing your core values". Having had some experience on this subject I was all ready to dive-in. Core Values is key. Knowing your core values. 

Lori makes it so easy to pinpoint. One time we were speaking about something else and we both realized...OMG...that is a core value for me. I hadn't written it down before, but discovered later that if ever a core value fit me...it was the one I mentioned at that time.  Knowing that piece of information also answered a long standing question in my head.  One of the "why's" as to my constant upset with other places I had worked.

What were the results from working with Lori?


Many things. One is a great looking resume. I thought, wow, I look good and it was all from work I had already done elsewhere but didn't know how to say it or present it. Another is the clarity of knowing where I will feel good when I do work. What I really want and with the kind of people I really want to work with on a daily basis. This entire process is so valuable. The best money I ever spent and I am not kidding or exaggerating. I was only hoping it would be valuable and it really was valuable.< I know stuff and it has value and is marketable. Lori showed me those things and it gives me confidence.

Anything else you’d like to add?


Lori delivers above and beyond. The highest quality of exchange, 'more than you expected.' I told my friends this over and over: 'I wish I had her 10-20-even 30 years ago.' Every one, and I mean EVERYONE, needs a Lori. Her understanding,patience, how she problem solves, putting things in simple terms, was mind blowing. I wish I could that well. I present a problem and she could turn it around and yes...another epiphany.

Lori, is worth every penny. It isn't about a title. It is about enjoying everyday doing work you love with people you like and are like minded. You'll know what you are looking for when you interview.  I never say this, but I will say it here. Lori is a major key into the rest of my life doing what I always wanted to do. That is: Being happy doing what I do, everyday. Something I have been saying for years. Allowing Sherlock...to be Sherlock.  Finding my people. They are out there and now I know what I am looking for in that respect.

LORI ROCKS!!!!!!

Sherlock Ganz, Los Angeles, CA