Too late? Or perfect timing?

Does this sound familiar?

I’ve been at this career so long, it’s all I know.

I’m not sure I can do anything else.

I wish I knew then what I know now.

I’m afraid it’s too late for me.

I’ve always wanted to be a writer. I’ve taken classes, even drafted a novel. But, I have a family and a career. I’m not one of the lucky ones who get to have any real success at this.

I’ve invested a lot of time and money in this career. I can’t let all that go to waste! I’m miserable, but as my grandmother says, “I’ve made my bed, now I need to lie in it.”

Is this you? Are you frustrated on your current career track, with some seeds or inklings of what you’d like to do? But not enough information to really invest in a new path. So what do you do? How do you proceed?

I, too, was in a corporate job that was killing me, and yearning to do something closer to my passion. I remember that feeling of hopelessness, for me it turned into extreme burn out, exhaustion and illness. I really needed to get out and didn’t know how. But I found a way out, and in turn developed a three stage process that would allow others to find their way out too.

Along the way, I’ve discovered some common misconceptions (dare I call them excuses?) about changing careers mid-investment, that stop people from having a career that feels like a calling. And I’d love to clear these up. This is what I know to be absolutely true, despite common beliefs:

• First, it is absolutely possible to have a career that feels like an expression of who you are and what you are meant to do.

• Second, it is never too late to find out what that is.

• Third, you’re life and career experience to date will not go to waste.

 

Let’s take these one by one.

  1. It is absolutely possible to have a career that feels like an expression of who you are and what you are meant to do. I am living proof. As are my clients. Not all of us are lucky enough to hear our calling loud and clear early in life. I confess that I have always been a little envious of those who have a clear calling. My own sense is that very few of us have the luxury of a true calling, the idea that we are clearly called for one purpose, one path, one area of service for which our whole lives are destined to lead us to. As for the rest of us, I do believe we are one of a kind, and have something unique to offer the world. No two people have the same set of strengths, skills and passions. When you unearth your own strengths, skills and passions, you claim that which makes you truly unique and special. Then you can leverage them to create a successful and fulfilling career. Embracing who you are and what you offer, your strengths, skills and passions, will help you create a career you will love, where you can truly thrive and succeed.

  2. It is never too late to find out what that is. Let me ask you a question, if you think you are too old or it is too late, when did you cross that line? What was the exact date and time it became too late? Was it when you turned 40? When you got laid off at 50? Was it after you graduation from college with your Masters degree in Architecture? Was it when you were diagnosed with a serious illness? Now let me ask you another question, are you dead? Clearly, if you’re reading this article and answering my questions, you are not dead. And if you are not dead, if you are still reading and contemplating what might have been or what could be, it is not too late. You did not miss it. It is not too late.

    The feeling of “it’s too late” is typically a mask for the fear that you’ll never know what you want to do, or that you’ll discover what it is, and it will take 20 years and another college degree to pursue it. If you know your strengths, skills, and passions, there will be more than one option for you to pursue in which to use those fully. I don’t believe in the one career fit. Of course, you cannot turn back the clock. So if you want to be a dancer, it may be too late to become the next prima ballerina, but it isn’t too late to dance, to work in the industry of dance, to work with dancers, to perform. The question to answer is: what about being a dancer do you love? And how can you take your strengths and skills and bring them to the world of dancing? How can you do that now? It is never too late to bring who you together with what you love to do. That is the essence of creating the right career for you.

  3. You’re life and career experience to date will not go to waste. It can be scary to think, “My whole life has been a waste!” But that’s not true. At whatever point you decide to change careers, and pursue a career that excites and inspires you, that is an expression of who you are and what you love, your experience to date will still count. Strengths and skills transfer from one job to another, from one career to another. You bring them with you. They may even provide your ticket to get into your new path.

Now is the time to pursue a career you love. What is your ideal career? I invite you to claim it now by sharing it on my blog below.

If you need support to discover your ideal career, contact me for your complimentary 30 minute Career Breakthrough Session.

 

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At the time I hired Lori, I was looking for someone to help me develop a resume which focuses on career transitions.  I had hired a coach who did not hear a word I said and sent me a resume that was totally wrong.  Lori, on the other hand, did listen to what my needs were and asked me pointed questions.  I decided to work with her and never regretted this decision. Lori helped develop two resumes which highlighted skills needed for two different types of positions.  She was easy to work with, took all my comments into consideration, and made the appropriate revisions.  In the end, I received two resumes which I was totally happy with.  I would recommend Lori without hesitation.  She is a true professional and a delight to work with.

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