What do you tell yourself about what’s possible?

What does your ideal work day at your dream job look like?  Can you really picture it, in detail? 

The first time Joe did this exercise his ideal work day was just a little better than his current work day.  In reality, it was a description of what his current job would look like if all the problems were “fixed.”  But when I asked him if this is the job he’d love to have, the job he really wants, after a thoughtful pause, he replied in a sad voice, “No, not really.”   

As Joe and I talked, Joe realized he had been telling himself that the ideal job wasn’t practical.   That he couldn’t have that job.  He wasn’t good enough, skilled enough.  His “inner critic” or “voices from his past” or just plain fear got in the way.  We all tell ourselves stories about our limits.  The problem is you can’t really know for sure whether you can or can’t have a job and career you love, if we don’t know what it is. 

Mary on the other hand had a very clear vision of the job and career she wanted.  She cut out pictures from magazines and made a collage of what it would look like, feel like.  Her vision included a downtown city office with plants and lots of natural light, coworkers collaborating happily on projects, delivering successful presentations to clients, and even writing reports and doing research from her home computer.  When it came time to look for a job, really look to see what was out there for her, Mary stopped cold.  She would just say over and over, “I’m not qualified.”  Even though Mary hadn’t actually looked for companies and positions, and she hadn’t applied for any jobs.   

What was the story Mary was telling herself?  Her ideal job wasn’t practical or possible.  The problem of course is that Mary told herself this story, believed this story.  And this story limited her.   

What stories you do tell yourself about what’s possible?   

Joe did the exercise several more times, until he finally could say with enthusiasm, “Yes!  That is a job I’d love doing! That’s a place I’d love to work! I’d feel great.”  Today Joe is employed in a new job that he loves.  It’s not an exact match for is ideal work day at his dream job, but it has all the most important elements to Joe. 

Mary began to question her story, question whether it was true.  She then began to test her story by applying for jobs at companies that were similar to her dream.  Today Mary is excited about her options, about the possibilities she sees.

Take a moment now, close your eyes, and picture in your mind what your ideal work day at your dream job is like.  Where are you? What are you doing?  How does your day unfold?  Who do you spend time with? How do you get to work? Imagine what it would feel like, sound like, even smell like, as you live out your ideal work day.  What problems do you get to solve?  What challenges do you overcome?  What does your place of work look like?  Then ask yourself, is the job you’d love to have, the jobyou really want?  If not, what story are you telling yourself?  If it is, then what’s story stops you from going after it?

I’d be honored if you’d share what you discover with me here on my blog.

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Lori makes it so easy to pinpoint. One time we were speaking about something else and we both realized...OMG...that is a core value for me. I hadn't written it down before, but discovered later that if ever a core value fit me...it was the one I mentioned at that time.  Knowing that piece of information also answered a long standing question in my head.  One of the "why's" as to my constant upset with other places I had worked.

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